When you consider becoming a gestational surrogate, one of the most important things is choosing the right surrogacy agency. You need an agency that makes you feel valued and appreciated. One you can trust to guide you through the journey from start to finish with your best interests in mind.
Consider these six signs that you need to keep looking for your perfect match.
They don’t feel welcoming.
When you first contact an agency, they should be eager to put you at ease and answer any questions you may have. An experienced agency counselor will know you are nervous and have questions. They want to keep you interested and engaged until they have the chance to conduct an initial screening with you. If they are dismissive or curt, how are they going to behave when you are mid-pregnancy and have concerns?
They don’t seem legit.
Do your research, but trust your gut. Ask some preliminary questions. If you are uncomfortable with the answers or if they hesitate to answer, move onto the next agency on your list. Ask questions like:
- When was the agency started?
- How many clients and surrogates do they currently have?
- What are the screening and matching processes like?
- What kind of support and communication can I expect?
- How many successful pregnancies have they handled?
None of these questions are out of line and they should have no problem answering them.
They won’t let you speak to previous surrogates.
The best way to learn what it’s like to be a surrogate with them is to speak to women who have already been through it. If you can speak to an experienced surrogate, ask her about the best and worst things about surrogacy in general and this agency.
You can’t find anything about them.
Ideally, they should have testimonials on their website, but it shouldn’t be too hard to find other reviews. Google the name of the agency followed by “reviews” and it should lead you to online reviews or message boards that may provide feedback for you.
You don’t understand their requirements.
There are a lot of different screenings and requirements including physical, emotional, financial and lifestyle factors. Most of them should be pretty straightforward, but if there is anything that seems confusing or out of line, they should be able to explain it to your satisfaction.
They won’t discuss compensation/expenses.
You don’t want to ask how much you will be paid right out of the gate, but they should be able to give you a range and tell you what is covered, such as medical expenses, travel, lost work, pain and suffering, maternity clothes or other things you may need during your pregnancy. No one gets rich from being a gestational surrogate, but you shouldn’t have a lot of out-of-pocket expenses.
The right surrogacy agency can make all the difference to your surrogacy experience. Don’t hesitate to ask all the questions you need to make yourself comfortable with the process and the agency. Keep looking if you are not 100 percent happy with the agencies you consider.
If you are looking for additional information on becoming a gestational surrogate, please contact us at Surrogate Solutions today!