Building your family through surrogacy is a complex but ultimately rewarding journey. That journey is likely to proceed more smoothly with the right players on your team. While you’re probably eager to get on your way to having your baby in your arms, it’s important to research your potential team to be sure that you partner with people who are trustworthy and experienced. Here are some of the people you’ll want to add to your surrogacy team and what you need to know about them.
Look for a surrogacy agency that has many years of success in the business. Ideally, some of their employees should have personal experience with surrogacy, either as a gestational surrogate or intended parent. They should be able to patiently and accurately answer any questions you may have about the process. Ask how they screen surrogates and what their success rate has been. Check the Better Business Bureau for their ratings and look for online reviews. Finally, ask for references from previous intended parents and call them to discuss their experience.
It seems that any attorney should be able to handle surrogate/intended parent relationship. After all, it’s really a simple contractual relationship. The reality is laws on surrogacy can vary from state to state and even county to county. You’ll need someone with surrogacy experience in the location where the birth is to take place. Ask the agency or your reproductive endocrinologist doctor for recommendations or check with the local bar association.
Ideally you will be able to work with a reproductive facility your surrogacy agency recommends. They will have partnerships with agencies that are nearby and accustomed to working with surrogates and intended parents. You should have a level of comfort with the clinic the agency recommends, but don’t be afraid to branch out and conduct your own research if it doesn’t seem like the perfect fit for your family.
The surrogacy agency will do much of the vetting before you even meet the surrogate. But you will have your own questions as well. Take your time getting to know the surrogates you consider. Whether your initial meeting is on the phone or in person, treat it more like a first date than a job interview. You will be trusting the woman you choose with one of the most important aspects of your life, so make an effort to start the relationship off on the right foot. You’ll be nervous about choosing the right surrogate, but be sure your holding a conversation, not conducting an interrogation.
Ultimately, a rewarding surrogacy journey begins with an agency you can trust and ends with a baby in your arms. Take your time to lay the groundwork up front so you can relax and enjoy the trip along the way, confident you’ve chosen the right team to travel with you.
Surrogate Solutions works with couples in Florida, Texas and Oklahoma, helping them assemble a great surrogacy team. If you have any questions or concerns regarding surrogacy, please contact us today.